6 Reasons He May Not Be Good For You (Pre-Marital)
A good man must be more than just the basics. Breathing, eating and sleeping is not the criteria you need in settling or moving to the next step. Take special note of how and when he completes assignments. Simple assignments as well as complicated tasks are great tests to show if one is persistent in getting the job done. Procrastination is one thing but laziness is an absolute deterrent. It is quite difficult to change a lazy man into a productive one. It will be too much work on your part to expect changes.
The old wise people say watch the way he treats his mother or his sister. There are many men on the dating scene who may not have had a great relationship with thier mother. It is important to take note of his interaction with other females. Demeaning and sizing up females especially in your presence will be an indicator that he is not one who will consider you an equal presently or in the future. If he considers women beneath him whether culturally or spiritually there will be contention and strife.
Temper Temper Temper. What a person is in their heart so will the actions manifest. This is not just for hot heads but also for the temperament which makes him a pushover. There are men who can be meek and mild yet have the power to be confident. Take the opportunity to experience him in many different situations and make a decision based on his balanced mind. If he does not take up for you he is not the right one for you. It’s ok for him to be macho or broad-chested but if becomes over-bearing to a fault then make that move quick. Make sure he is as balanced as possible. (If you go over his house check the medicine cabinet)
A man should be about business at all times. He must have a 3-5 year plan and working towards it. Ask him where he sees himself in 3-5 years and if he does not have an answer there is a sign to exit stage right or left as long as you are out. He should be aware of his credit score. Accept 750 to 850 which is preferable to impress you. He must live below his means (if you are a gold digger you probably should check the blog coming soon) and plan to have a bank account he could live off for 6 months.
Communication is Key. Many men have serious issues with communicating. Men are really from Mars and women are from Venus. Totally different places. Do not be too hard on him at this point. It can truly be difficult for some men to understand where the relationship is going. Ladies listen carefully to what men say. it can be what they are really not saying. Whew. This one requires your instincts to be in tact. If you are hitting a brick wall for too long, follow your nose and believe that what they portray is who they are.
A man must be governed by a higher power. Even if he is not a church, synagogue, mosque attendee, there should be a level spirituality which makes him strive to wake up with a destiny everyday. A man who possess a hope for the future treats the world differently which means you will benefit from a spiritual man. Explore him more. If you are spiritual and he is not, this relationship WILL NOT WORK OUT.
Just a few thoughts to help someone along the way. Comments welcomed. We over think the unthinkable.